Saturday, May 10, 2008

Don't Screw With Us!

Dear Teleflora, NBC, The Today Show and Donny and Marie Osmond,

I am sure you've learned a bitter lesson in the last 2 days. You do NOT screw with adoptive Moms.

I am happy to know that you've been deluged with negative email over your crappy contest America's Favorite Mom (how stupid is that kind of contest anyway pitting Moms against each other?)

How DARE you put adoptive and foster Moms in a NON Mom category? I understand that all the negative emails and press you have received resulted in you abruptly changing your categories to Adoptive Moms. It was TOO LITTLE TOO LATE! Plus I am sure that now you can be sued...hope someone does this ASAP and soaks you for millions.

Just so you know, I am a very very proud adoptive Mom to a wonderful, smart, beautiful baby girl. I waited YEARS for this child and have had more training, reading and experience than many bio Moms. I am unequivocally HER Mother and no one can ever take that from us.

However, Adoptive Parents do struggle with people who are predjudiced, ignorant or "well meaning" in a stupid way. Do not give these people more ammunition over our children...the innocents in all this. They will be challenged enough one day without some stupid contest negating their right to their adoptive parents---the only family they may ever know.

You cannot make ME feel less than someone who has gotten pregnant and delivered a child. I won't give you that power over me.

However, I DO have the power NOT to buy flowers from teleflora, watch NBC or pay any attention to anything Osmond from this day forward. And I get to blog about it and spread the word...

If this has outraged you, I urge you to boycott all the sponsors above...the one who hurts is Marie Osmond, an adoptive Mother herself...shame on you Marie, I thought you'd know better.

All Moms are important to children...biological, adoptive, foster, birthMoms, Women who step in to raise someone else's children so they don't end up "in the system"...let's have some praise for all the Mom's who love a child dearly.

Happy Mother's Day to MY Mom, Mother in Law, Sister, my Friends and to Kelsey's birth mom who is precious to me.


Anonymous said...

As an adoptive mom myself for over 20 years, I agree with much of what you said, but not the tone in which it was expressed. Allowing yourself to expend so much emotional energy on people who will respond with a simple shrug hurts you not them. Indeed, anger only begets anger (or defensiveness). No one else needs to tell adoptive mothers, foster mothers, or birthmothers that they are mothers. They know it in their hearts every day.

Briana's Mom said...

I think you hit the nail on the head! And I think you said it perfectly!

Happy Mother's Day to you!

The Blessing that is LIA said...

Amen sista!

Happy Mommy's Day!